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Condolence On Demise Of Civil Graciousness Of Lee Hsien Loong

Sg Review, 1 Oct 2008, Law Sin Ling
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How does one define "condolence"?

According to the Cambridge dictionary, a "condolence" is "sympathy and sadness for the family or close friends of a person who has recently died, or an expression of this, especially in written form." And the Oxford dictionary defines it as "an expression of sympathy, especially on the occasion of a death."

'Condolence", a simple word with a simple meaning, an emotional expression which is not unique to humans, but that Homo sapiens nonetheless have brought to a more dignified form.

The present Prime Minister of Singapore Lee Hsien Loong is a learned man. He graduated from the University of Cambridge with a Degree in Mathematics and a Diploma in Computer Science. He then went on to obtain a Masters in Public Administration from the Kennedy School of Government in Harvard University.

You would expect this man to get the definition of "condolence" right. You would expect this man to understand the meaning of grief and sympathy such as would be experienced by the family members of a deceased. You would expect this man to have a functional heart. You are wrong on all counts.

On the 30th September 2008 following the decease of Singapore's legendary Opposition champion Mr Joshua Benjamin Jeyaretnam in the morning of the same day, Lee concocted a condolence letter (see annexure below) with two major paragraphs. The content of the letter said a lot about his upbringing and mental eudemonia.

The first paragraph was scornfully presented in the form of an adversarial epitaph, casting the deceased as a political spoiler whose apparent mission was to "demolish" the institution and its products to which Lee and his political clan relate to. Short of an opulent itemised elaboration as only such justice could then be accorded to Mr Jeyaretnam, Lee summarily judged the deceased to have been a destructive political force for Singapore. Lee's description of Mr Jeyaretnam's "dogged tenacity" contains a thick suffusion of hereditary malice reminiscent of the dark unrestrained personal hatred Lee's politician father Lee Kuan Yew once liberally emanated through epithets on Mr Jeyaretnam as "mangy dog" among other unrefined lyrical utterance.

If Lee had meant to demonstrate subtle vindictiveness through a mighty show of disgraceful and uncouth avidness to carry on a fight with a lifeless man through an undoubtedly ungentlemanly display, he has aced his effort. But those words have no place in a condolence, not even by the thinnest stretch of Cambridge teaching. A bit of Harvard courtesy would have infused a semblance of human civility into what Lee passed off as a condolence.

Even a wretched goon knows when to put away the switchblade. Lee has a psychopathic attitude problem.

The second paragraph was over-the-top patronising not unlike the posture adopted by a certain lofty late eighteenth-century French king to his modest subjects begging for crumbs. And that is to say nothing of the complete irrelevance of the content to the occasion. But again as was in the preceding paragraph, the need for Lee to establish the position of the PAP as subduer, and for the two successors of Mr Jeyaretnam to reacquaint with that indelible humiliation, probably has its roots in the 'Magnificent Mentoring' of Lee's father who once purportedly swore in rage that Mr Jeyaretnam would be made to "crawl on his bended knees, and beg for mercy." It is a shame that the learned Prime Minister saw it desperately necessary to exhibit his subjugating generosity by dispensing an out of place citation, although it is to the credit of the late Mr Jeyaretnam that he has shown why even a 'dog' has more pride than the fleas that bite it.

Lee's 'condolence' is at best another reminder to the world of the characteristic of those who carry the mindset of one who reigns majestically rather than leads respectfully. Lee's vision of Singapore becoming a more gracious society will not be realised by one who delivers a condolence as a political and personal victory speech.


(Mr) Law Sin Ling


Annexure

CONDOLENCE LETTER FROM PRIME MINISTER LEE HSIEN LOONG ON DEMISE OF JB JEYARETNAM

30 September 2008

Mr Kenneth Jeyaretnam
Mr Philip Jeyaretnam

Dear Kenneth and Philip Jeyaretnam

I was sad to learn that your father, Mr Joshua Benjamin Jeyaretnam, has passed away.

Mr JB Jeyaretnam was a Member of Parliament for Anson constituency from 1981 till 1986, and a Non-Constituency Member of Parliament from 1997 till 2001. He used to engage in heated debates in the House. Perhaps it was because he and the PAP never saw eye to eye on any major political issue and he sought by all means to demolish the PAP and our system of government. Unfortunately, this helped neither to build up a constructive opposition nor our Parliamentary tradition. Nevertheless, one had to respect Mr JB Jeyaretnam’s dogged tenacity to be active in politics at his age.

However, our differences were not personal. In 1993, one of you (Kenneth) wrote to Mr Goh Chok Tong, who was then Prime Minister, to say that you found employers in Singapore reluctant to offer you a job, and your only explanation was that the employers felt the authorities would not welcome your employment because of your name. Mr Goh replied with a letter which could be shown to prospective employers, to say that the government did not hold anything against you, and that employers should evaluate you fairly on your own merits, like any other candidate, because Singapore needed every talented person that it could find. Mr Goh had previously made the same point to your brother Philip, whom he had invited to lunch. I am therefore happy that both of you have established yourselves in Singapore.

Please accept my deepest condolences.

Yours sincerely

Lee Hsien Loong

29 comments:

Anonymous said...

Not only is the first paragraph a blatant attack on JBJ, the second one is an equally shameless plug for the PAP. PM Lee was trying to show off how enlightened and meritocratic the PAP was - are we supposed to be grateful and impressed that after bankrupting JBJ, they didn't go after JBJ's sons as well>

All in all, his condolence letter is utterly lacking in sincerity and betrays the true character that lies beneath the benign smiling facade of his that the media always exhibits to the world.

Anonymous said...

Well, Singaporeans know JB JEYARETNAM AND CHIA THYE POH NEVER KNEEL, NEVER BEG AND NEVER SURRENDER.

patriot

Anonymous said...

The letter only shows one thing about this so-called leader, he is a coward. This is all he can do, write a few utterly disgusting words about ONE DECEASED PERSON. He did not even dare to face him when he was alive.

Many have succumbed to their "white horse treatment" and seduced to their "white side". They just could not accept the fact that there are people who will not bend their knees despite their massive whiter-than-white machinery.

Anonymous said...

http://www.straitstimes.com/ST%2BForum/Online%2BStory/STIStory_285072.html

Anonymous said...

Personally, I don't find anything untrue with PM Lee has said.

JBJ will forever be known in history as someone who opposed the rule of PAP, yes he may have started and inspired the movement (then and now for some), but after 27 years, the confrontational style of opposition politics has not taken off - as he has endeavoured & envisioned.

But was it necessary for PM Lee to mention it (at all) in this so-called 'condolence message', at this time?

Maybe not.

Anonymous said...

In this case giving no condolence is better than giving one. But then, a crocodile cannot be expected to shed real tears for it's victim.

Anonymous said...

It is beyond words to further comment on PM so-called condolence message. Here's a word that I think he should learn "GRACE" and learn it well.

Yes, you can disagree with JBJ's political tact but you cannot ignore or deny the fact that his passionate fighting spirit for standing firm with his principle.

Observer (SG-HK)

ErniesUrn said...

The Letter is reflection on PM Lee's politcal cause. It's all about his party and family...and non for the people. For if he did, he would have sincerely acknowlegde that both him and JBJ were on the same page but with diffrent views on improving and striving for Singapore.

Anonymous said...

As a student of mass communication,I am learning much these days. I hope that I can get a job to help out with MICA when I graduate.

Anonymous said...

Well, like father like son. Can you expect "gentlemanly" behaviour from one who has undergone radiological castration?

tewniaseng said...

Where is the old Lee ? Never even heard a word from him. He must have felt guilty not even to send condolence ? Remember how he said he wanted to destroy JBJ, where did JBJ go wrong until you have to destroy him ? The old man is a coward.

Ken Sun (NSP) said...

The Honourable JB Jeyaretnam suffered prosecution for his distinguished conributiuon to Singapore in breaking PAP's monopoly in Parliament. And because they never forgave him, the struggles between this political icon and the powers-that-be sometimes appeared to be rather personal. Nevertheless, Singapore recognises JBJ as a legend for his perseverence spirit. He has given hope and inspiration to the Opposition cause, and we belive that many many will continue to cherish and emulate the JBJ "never-say-die" spirit. On Thursday night, the NSP sent a 15-men delegation to pay its last respect and homage to the dear departed leader, a true towering gentleman amongst local politicians.

Ken Sun (NSP)

smallvoice585 said...

Er, wait a minute, Mr Law Sin Ling. I think our PM's condolence letter has been misinterpreted and/or misunderstood by you. I believe he is merely stating facts as they happened. I think he should be entitled to state his assessment of JBJ's impact on our politics. His second paragraph merely emphasises the pains he had taken to prove that their differences were never personal. Somehow, I do not see any malice in the letter and it certainly does not deserve the vehement condemnation in the general tone of your letter.

Anonymous said...

Everybody, including our PM has a right to state facts that as happened and definitely should be entitled to state their assessment of JBJ's impact on our politics. In fact they should let the public know that despite the differences that there was nothing personal. But there is always a time and place for everything. It is common knowledge.
(Touch wood) If i am grieving because of a loss of a loved one and a certain person tells me the differences he had with my loved one and the fact that despite it all, he never took it personally but did this and that for the family...etc etc..
I can never ever compose myself and say 'oh well, he is merely stating the facts that as happened'. Seriously, do i really need to hear that now and would that console me and make me feel better when i'm grieving?

Why bother even sending a condolence letter? It can very well be 'I'm sadden to learn that your father has passed away and end it with my deepest condolences. I believe that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all, especially to a grieving family for Christ Sake! Do people really have to have a first hand experience to know what it feels like and understand why such matter can cause a stir? Mr Law Sin Ling did not even need to point that out in the letter. It's crystal clear. Unless some people enjoy receiving such condolences at their family wake probably would have a deeper understanding and hence justify it. Probably most of us are just too immature to think that deep. I have attended wakes and have read condolences messages. Whether the person is good or bad, the one common expression to the grieving family regardless of the race or religion is 'sympathy and kind words". At least 90% of the time, the deceased would be remembered for his or her positive quality and that would be shared with the family. No one is interested in knowing the bad history or who did what for the family. No one would be interested to know another person's pain when they are grieving for their terrible loss at that moment. I'm sure Mr Kenneth would have appreciated Mr Goh Chok Tong's help and remembered it. He doesn't need to be reminded, especially at this point. He needs words of consolation. Even a child would know what to do or say these days. It's really kind of our PM to even want to write a letter of condolence but i really doubt that he would have written such a letter personally. It lack compassion and sympathy. Of course he should have taken the interest to know what was written on his behalf though. But the person who was writing it should have checked, what a letter of condolence mean!!! Information is easily available in the net.

Anonymous said...

maybe they are too used to writing condolence letter for their own party pple and they must include good things that the deceased has done in their condolence letter...so when someone who has been opposing them for a long long time passed away, they are at a lost of how to write the condolence letter...instead of mentioning the good that the deceased has done, they mentioned the good that they themselves have done....

Anonymous said...

The best condolences the Lees and Goh and the PAP could give to JBJ is for the old Lee to attend the wake and service of JBJ (to show how gracious he is, which he obviously is not), go down on their knees before JBJ's dead body to pray for forgiveness and return all the money that they have gotten from JBJ to a charity.

Anonymous said...

Totally agree that they could be at a lost of how to write a condolence letter for someone who has been opposing them. I hope the following information will be helpful so that in future everyone will know how to write a condolence letter.

A helpful tip on how to write a condolence letter.

- Try to be empathetic. Imagine yourself in the other person's place. What would you like to hear? What would make you feel better?

- Describe how much the deceased was respected and admired by you and others.

- Mention a few of the deceased person's strengths, achievements, and successes.

- Be personal. Remind the bereaved you support them at this difficult time and they are not completely alone in their suffering.

- Mention positive memories. If your Sympathy Letter concerns a death, and if you knew the deceased, pay tribute to the person's life by mentioning something positive:a notable achievement, etc.You could also mention a special characteristic of the deceased-something you will always cherish. e.g a contagious sense of humor, a generous nature, love of the arts, courage, leadership, decisiveness.

- Offer encouragement to the bereaved. Assume that the survivor feels overwhelmed by the loss and doesn't know whether or not they have the strength to get through it. State your confidence that they will get through it. Time is also a great healer. A comforting tactic that can have a powerful effect on the survivor is to quote a loving remark that was once made by the deceased about him or her. Remind the person in mourning of their own personal strengths in descriptive terms.

- Remember that a mourner is emotionally drained, so keep your condolence letter short--under one page in length.

- If you can do so sincerely, offer to help in some way and include contact information such as your cell phone number and your email address.

- If you have strong religious convictions, comfort the mourner with your belief that the deceased will find peace and happiness in a better world.

- Put yourself in the mourner's place and imagine the kind of condolence letter you would like to receive.

- Show sensitivity. Allow people to grieve in their own way and for as long as is needed. There is a time to mourn! Be careful not to offer advice when none is wanted or needed. Remember, at the moment the bereaved needs a loving friend, not a counselor.

- Close with an expression of comfort. "I share in your grief and send my condolences"

Even if the above is really extremely difficult to do then the best option would be to buy Easy Letters software. A must know letter writing tip.

black feline said...

let's face it...the crap poison letter was intentional..period.

feedmetothefish said...

As mentioned, if only the leaders know how to KISS!

Yes, if only they know how to keep it simple, it would not have sounded so stupid!

Sad, very sad indeed.

feedmetothefish

Anonymous said...

I do not find anything wrong with the condolence letter written by our PM. To all the people who are upset by the letter, your comments and attack on the PM merely show how hypocritical all of you are. You are merely using this as a reason to attack the PM and not beause you sincerely feel for JBJ. If you are so ungrateful as to not to be able to appreciate the good work done by our PM and his father, I would suggest that you pack your bags and leave Singapore. Singapore will be a much better place without ungrate citizens like all of you. ungragteful

Anonymous said...

Strange, I dont find any sacrifices by PM and his father that is strong enough for us to be grateful.

There is nothing to be grateful about. In fact, they are enjoying their job and is happy with their pay and job.

Professionally, there is also nothing to be grateful about because the PM and his father are already paid to deliver results. If they meet expectations, it is expected. What is there to be grateful about ??

Maybe you came from a working environment whereby your boss everyday show his special gratitude when you deliver your daily job for him despite you already getting paid for the job. Maybe you should leave your boss to get a taste of reality.

Anonymous said...

I am definitely no the Prime Minister, any where close that position. but perhaps, the Honourable Prime Minister, could have been more gracious, sympathetic, human rather than be an unusual alumnus of Cmabridge and Harvard.

Here is my expression of condolence(s), which the Honourable Prime Minister and/or his Office could have improved on.

Remember, O Lord our God, this Your servant, JB Jeyaretnam, who now stands before You in faith and hope of eternal life. Release him from his sins. Destroy all iniquity. Pardon, loose and free him from all transgressions, voluntary and involuntary (alleged and adjudged). Save him from eternal sufferings . Grant him to enjoy and share in Your eternal happiness which You have prepared for all who love You.

Be merciful, Lord, to Your servant. Look upon his faith rather than his works, and grant him rest amongst all your Saints. Make him a sharer of the Kingdom of heaven.

May his memory be eternal.

My sincere condolences to his sons, and their extended family.

smallvoice585 said...

Well, people, it appears that most of you have already made up your minds that PM's condolence letter is offensive. I have no objections as you are all entitled to your opinions. But just let me point out 4 things in the name of fair play:
(1) PM is equally entitled to write a condolence letter the way he sees fit.
(2) The best person to interpret the letter is PM himself. I think we would be unwisely presumptuous to read the letter cynically. He is our PM after all, and I think we should give him the benefit of the doubt and accept his letter at face value.
(3) I had earlier shown that it is possible to interpret his letter as being appropriate and fair-minded. It is likely to be an attempt to opportunistically provide closure to JBJ's family members - that their past conflicts were limited to the political sphere, never a personal one.
(4) Some people here seem to think that a condolence letter is to selectively say niceties about the deceased. I disagree. If it is, it would be insincere and disrespectful to the deceased. Knowing that his condolence letter would be publicised, PM would be aware that his message is not only of interest to JBJ's family but to all Singaporeans. Therefore, it is not surprising that it has some political contents.
By the way, may I state unequivocally that I am neither related to the Lee family, a PAP member nor involved in politics. In fact, I am an admirer of JBJ in some ways.

greyheyn said...

Hi smallvoice585,
Lee Junior has written a 'not so condolence' letter. And you are trying to help Lee Junior to explain this. Of course, you and myself are entitled to have our opinion on this. As you have stated, the best person to explain the letter is Lee Junior himself, not you or anyone.
Whether this so called past conflicts between JB Jeyaretnam and Lee is personal or not, the answer lies between the Lees and the Jeyaretnams not just on any explanation or any condolence letter.
If the Lees are genuinely fighting for the interest of Singapore, they would have come to JBJ's funeral wake despite their difference in political opinion. Clearly, they are not.
Lastly, you do not have to explain yourself to be not a member of whatever association with PAP or anyone if you deem yourself to be fair.

Regards,
Greyheyn

Anonymous said...

Everyone is entitled to their views and intepretations. That's what JBJ fought for and lets honour him and let everyone have their rights to freedon of speech, no matter how much we might disgaree with them. So here is my thoughts.

JBJ has been called the "Lion of Singapore", I can't but agree for he fought his battle with such tenacity.He stood up to what his son called savage attacks. As far as I'm concerned he was a hero for he never shied away from the battles with his opponents. He took on the challenege and won finally won in 1981.

Then there are others who are not brave and honest enough to take on the challenge but instead try to destroy the opponent himself after having lost and winning by default.
I would have respect for his opponents if they had defeated him through the ballot box.

Why take on a fair fight when you can ensure there is no opponent at all or you have injured the opponent even before the fight starts. These people are also great in some people's eye. They believe them when they say that they have made great sacrifices and not enriched themselves. To me they deserve a title too. Weasal of Singapore would be befitting. In my mind JBJ you were a honourable opponent and true sportsman, not a unethical and self glorifying weasal

Anonymous said...

With regards to this comment made:

"You are merely using this as a reason to attack the PM and not beause you sincerely feel for JBJ. If you are so ungrateful as to not to be able to appreciate the good work done by our PM and his father"

Firstly my dear countryman, what makes you so sure that we are finding a reason to attack the PM deliberately and that we're not sincere?

Secondly, we are pointing out that there is a lack of sympathy in the so called 'condolence' letter. So we are entitled to voice our opinion if we feel that it is wrong. If you understood our late JBJ's message, it would have made sense to you. In your case, i don't think you even know half of the messages he was saying to the people. If you did, you wouldn't have stated a comment like that.

Thirdly, since you're being a little political here, there is nothing for us to be grateful for because the good work done is a board of body and does not only involve two brains, the PM and his father. If you know a little history, you would find many people had contributed to the already flourishing country.

Lastly, for being paid a salary of SG$3.8 million, (regardless of the country's economic situation and the increase in everything ) the highest paid head in the govt in the WORLD, he MUST and HAVE to do what he is paid for. So there is nothing for us to KOWTOW for. That doesn't mean we're ungrateful. It's just that we don't kiss ass.

So stop sounding like a medival slave and have a backbone and a little dignity and pride.

Anonymous said...

A-men to that.

Anonymous said...

Why do some people believe that Singapore's success is because of one man? It seems like asians are classically conditioned.

Anonymous said...

The interesting thing here is that that people were surprised that such a letter was written. Some thought that it was a hoax because they could not believe that a PM could ever write such a letter.

The natural reaction was disbelief, anger, upset etc etc. The fact that some even bothered to try to explain and interpret it on behalf of the PM is impressive. It is nice to see someone trying to stand up for their belief despite the majority disapproval in this matter. Unfortunately, on another setting it could have made sense.

In this case because most people would know how a condolence letter should be written, it makes a lot of difference especially when it is written by a PM from Harvard University. That is where the disbelief comes in.

It is true that a condolence letter should not be hypocritical by saying nice things about the deceased especially when the writer does not have anything nice to say. But it should not be written in such a way that people have to try to explain it on behalf of the PM.

Any letter that makes people upset or needs to be explained or for the writer having need to explain it, is not a good letter. If you know letter writing, you would probably understand it's structure. A student from Harvard, it's not excusable to make such a mistake.

From what i see here, it could be just one poorly written condolence letter or it was intended.

The fact that if JBJ son does get upset reading that letter, I wonder who would actually attempt to interpret the letter to him on behalf of the PM.

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